Can we have privacy if we use social media?

We can have privacy if we use social media depending on the information you choose to divulge online. If you use social media you could choose to use a pseudo-name, an avatar and not release your own personal information, it is your own choice to provide the information that you release on your profile.

I use caution upon releasing information online, even on secure websites such as Facebook. I never “check in” to a location and remove location settings on my photographs before I post to Instagram or Twitter. I never status update anything that I would not wish a potential employer to see unless its on my Twitter or Tumblr using a pseudo name. I do however have a personal Tumblr account where I chronicle my personal highs, lows and experiences of my job, however no information about my name, the particular place that I work or any of my friends is ever given.

I have been using social media websites starting in early high school. My first experience of social media was using the pet website “Neopets” ( which is aimed at pre-teens, its a website which allows users to have virtual pets and collect points via games to buy virtual items for their pet. I used “Guilds”, a type of group to meet people online and chat with them via Microsoft Messenger, however I never gave any of my personal information.

My next experiences with social media came via At that particular time in high school I was quite emo and gothic and used the site to meet others in my area that were the same. I closely monitored my online profile and took many “selfies” showing new piercings, hair styles, clothing items etc. I edited my profile to look much the same as other people within the same social group and closely edited profile information such as my favorite bands, movies and tastes. Later, I started using the website, a social media website aimed at more gothic/alternative youth, I joined groups for other people in my area to meet other gothic people my age. I attended meet ups and made friends online.

Bad Myspace Selfie

Bad My Space Selfie

My later experiences with social media came a few years ago, while living in Japan in 2008/2009 I began to be interested and where Gothic Lolita fashion and Japanese Metal. When I arrived back to Melbourne I really wanted to make friends with people who had the same interests as I did, my hobby consumed my entire life. I searched online and joined a group called EGL via Live Journal, through this website girls arranged meet ups in their area and sold used items. I eventually joined the smaller Melbourne Lolita Community, made up of roughly 170 members and started to attend their meet ups. In the 4 years that I have been in this community I have made countless numbers of new friends that have more in common with me than the ones I had previously.
As much as I would not like to admit it, social media has effected my dating and relationships. In this scenario, I do not think I am the only one. My first boyfriend found me by commenting on a photo on, which at the time was bright pink. My second boyfriend I meet in Cherry Bar during a gig, but later stalked me down on an event page and through mutual friends and started to chat to me via Facebook. My now boyfriend was a friend of a friend, who I saw at a club but embarrassingly so I was too shy to speak to. Therefore when I had a little too much to drink, stalked his Facebook page, added him and sent him a message. Although this is all slightly embarrassing, I admit that I would be quite lonely without social media.

For better or worse social media is apart of our lives, regardless of whether you choose to participate or not. I think its very important that you a knowledge and value you own privacy, but this is not something that will go away despite your opinions. After all I am sure we all love a little bit of Facebook stalking, regardless of if its a previous lover or a classmate that who moved away in grade 5.